And we claim to live in a modern world....

Modern....what is a meaning of word modern?
Does it only mean to wear all those short skirts and all kinda western dresses? Does by holding  cigratte in your hand or by drinking alcohol can u be called  modern? And also if you aren't religious are u modern?
Now I really have this question Are we seriously living in a so called modern society?
On the basis of my recent experience I am convinced that we actually are not living in the modern world.This kind of experience is an eye opener for me.Wanted to share this one with my readres.

It was October 2010, I had entered in my 2nd trimester of pregnancy. I was expecting our second child and was adviced to get the ultrasound done.I went to this Radiologist who while doing an ultra sound looked at the screen and then returned to me to ask,"Ma'am, what is the sex of your first baby?"
When I replied,"I have a girl.",there was a strange look on his face, which I felt, was just to provoked me to ask the sex of my unborn child. I controlled my emotions and thought it should better be surprise.
While coming back I ran in to my friend, a friend of whose is gyneclogist. She asked me about the health then she asked me if I am intersted to determine the sex of the baby.And told me she can help me out with this and also when I said no I want it to be surprise,she said ,"What if there is daughter again"?
I smiled back and assured her we will be happy in any case and we just want the child to be healthy.
Through out my pregnancy I encountered such people, I must add here, educated people of our modern society who adviced me either directly or indirectly to determine the sex of the child and to take the wise decision if it's a girl child. Every time I feel ashamed of being second girl child of my parents and feel proud too on them for giving me life.
And then that day came soon. On 24th march,2010 I gave birth to our second daughter,Shreya.
I still remember, if there were friends and relatives who shared my joy, there were equal number of them to extend their sympathy for giving birth to daughter again. Is it really something for which people should sympathize ? Since then, I have been asked several times by my friends again I must say, educated friends,"Will u plan for another baby?". Some other asked," Don't you get scared of thinking what will you do in your old age"? and  millions of such questions just for not having a son.
This is a mirror of our modern society where people have such a narrow mindset.
This is my reply to all those questions I have been asked : I don't know what will happen tommorow and I am not worried for that. I live in present and at present I am too happy to raise my two beautiful girls. I am happy to live my childhood again with them. I want my girls to be a good human being and a responsible citizen of the society before making them doctors and engineers.
Modern is not just by wearing those western or adopting western culture...its about freeing our minds from such backwardness....

Who is corrupt?

Not long enough we all were shouting loudly "Anna tum sangharsh karo hum tumhare saath hain".
First time ,after independence, we all came out on road joining hands to get rid of corruption.
Are we sure we want it to be abolished?
Yes,you read it right.I am forced to ask this question after a recent conversation with three of my friends.Will not name them here.
First one had to travel from Lucknow to Gwalior.As it was sudden and urgent he could not get the reservation in a train.When I show my concern and asked what he will do now,this is what he replied back,"kuch nahi yaar,TC ko Rs 100-200 de kar jugad kar lenge.Don't worry.
Second one had applied for the passport and was not able to visit the hometown for police verification.Again I asked the same question,"what willl you do now"?
Reply was almost the same.She replied,"Papa ne kaha hai ki sab ho jayega,officer ko paise de denge."
Third one had to get the driving licence and when I asked the procedure as I too had to get it,the reply was,"itna mat soch,mein in chakron mein ni padta paise fenko aur tamasha dekho."
Guys when we dont want to get rid of this evil then why to make such a big issue for the same.Are'nt we all want it to be there for our own selfish motive.
Please decide whether you are actually with Anna Hazzare or it was only for the Fb status update.
It is not only the politicians or people in power who are at fault rather it is all of us who makes the whole syastem faulty and  then here we are to complain about the faults in the system.
To make the jan lokpal bill works and to get the whole idea of civil society works.first we all have to get rid of corruption from our innerselves then only our society can be freed from this evil.

Joys of life!!!

Joys of life are hidden treasure waiting to be revealed.Sometimes it took ages to discover them.Sometimes lifetime isn't enough to find out what actualy are the joys of life.
Today I feel blessed to reveal mine not too late in life.Though I haven't achieved it all what I wanted to but all what I have got is worth more than what I yearn for.
I am blessed to live a life much better than what I have dreamt of.
I have always dreamt of a busy life, I  saw this dream where I was on the top of the world, where I was working day and night and getting paid for that hard work, where I was nowhere behind my husband  rather walking by matching each step with him and earning that handsome salary for myself and my family.
But one fine day I woke up...I was no more living in my dreams.It was all real.As real as you and me..as real as this world..as real as this universe.
I was in pain for so many years as I thought I could not achieved what I have dreamt of.
Years passed by and with each passing year my pain grew stronger.
Then I realized for so many years I was an ignorant who failed to understand what actually are 'the joys of my life'.And when I discover my joys of life then I stood and look back once again to see what I was dreaming.And then I find out I am actually living a life what I have always dreamt of with little alterations what God has made to make it more meanigful and beautiful.
I dreamt of a busy life,God granted it.I dreamt of being on the top of the world,this comes true too.When I dreamt of working day and night,God send me two of his best angels to make it possible.I wanted to get paid for my hard work in a five digit salary,here God says,"my child you actually deserve some thing more than that."He asked those two angels of his to shower their selfless love on me.And these tiny arms around my neck,and that tight hug,and ofcourse those uncountable kisses on my cheeks are worth more than that 5 digit salary.And then when I dreamt of nowhere behind my husband,God secretly told me,"You are not here for any competition.I have sent u in his life to walk beside him holding his hand tightly.Nor too far ahead neither too far behind.walk with him so that two of you can hold each other during those storms and can lean on each other when you wish to."
I feel blessed to have all joys in my life and I feel blessed to discover the real joys of my life!!!!